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Relationships, love, agape and how to pick a life mate

February 24, 2009

always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father; and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also doesthe church, because we are members of His body.

(Ephesians 5:20-30 NASB)
What does it mean to have a relationship with Christ?
What does it look like?
What does it mean to have a spouse who is in  a committed relationship with Christ?  How do you know before you get married?

Ephesians chapter 5 paints a clear picture of our relationships with God in Christ, and with each other.  Especially husbands and wives.  We are to submit to the Lord AND to each other out of reverence and fear of Christ.


“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.

The word in John 3:16 for love is translated from the greek word agape.  God so loved the world,  God so agaped the world.  This is the same word used in Ephesians 5:25 where Paul instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church.



(John 3:16 NASB)

 What does it mean to have a relationship with Christ?
What does it look like?
What is love?
You are worth dying for!  If you are dating someone,  are they someone who would die for you?  Do they serve or wait to be served?  Do they have agape running in their lives and pouring out on everyone they encounter?  That is the kind of love you need to fill your life,  the same love that Christ showers on you in hopes you will receive and respond.
Is your future spouse’s life being filled by Christ?  by God’s amazing love?
Do they serve others?  Do they have peace?  Are they a peacemaker?  Do they honor commitments?
Are they safe?  can they be trusted?
Ephesians uses about 43 words to instruct the woman towards her husband, and about 143 to instruct the husband on how to love (agape) his wife, all the way to death if necessary, death to selfishness….
Jesus said blessed are the peacemakers,  this is very important in marriage for the husband to always pursue.
God has a plan,  even for dating, marriage, and picking someone to commit to a life together with.  Discover His plan for you.

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