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Rules – Relationships – Letting Love Guide

December 28, 2008

In June 2002,  my son asked me to just let love guide me.  11 days later and most days since then,  Joshua’s words have been in my mind often.  11 days later he died in an auto accident at age 18.  

You see I have a life long problem with letting love guide me in all my relationships.   In my marriage – I fall the furthest from God’s standard for loving and that is where God shines in illustrating intimate agape love.  In other relationships, friends, family, brothers and sisters in Christ – I fall short also – all due to me not allowing God’s agape love to guide me.

In spite of this,  the Amazing Grace of God in Christ Jesus – keeps trying, offering, asking me to accept the gift,  to choose His method for loving.

It is about relationship,  get the God relationship right,  choices will be guided by agape love,  your relationships over time will be healed,  mostly in you, and many times in others.  The point is always what God’s love is doing in you and then through you to others.

Then it is never about following rules or being good,  it is about being in relationship the way God designed you to be, with Him, and everyone else.

Jesus was the instrument used in creating the world.    In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things came into being through Him, and apart from Him nothing came into being that has come into being. In Him was life, and the life was the Light of men.
(Joh 1:1-4 NASB)


The Bible in the New Testament mentions love in 216 verses.  so it is a pretty important concept.  Many traditions have a prayer of confession similar to this “we confess that we have sinned. in thought, word and deed. We have not loved you with our whole heart. We have not loved our neighbours as ourselves”.

This is relationship loving, “letting love guide you”.  God chose to let love guide,  when all the actions of Adam, Eve, the people of Babel, Sodom, Canaan, the nation of Israel all rejected God’s provision, blessing, and offers of relationship based on love.  God chose to model and act in agape love.

The guiding love that God designed for all humans, perfected in Christ Jesus is agape love,  all other methods and ways of “loving” fall short as is described in (Mat 6:24 NASB)  “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and wealth.

Love that is not guiding by God,  will become stagnant, fail, fall short, it will not work right.

Verses mentioning love in the NT.

(NASB) Mat_5:43; Mat_5:44; Mat_5:46; Mat_6:5; Mat_6:24; Mat_19:19; Mat_22:37; Mat_22:39; Mat_23:6; Mat_24:12; Mar_10:21; Mar_12:30; Mar_12:31; Mar_12:33; Luk_6:27; Luk_6:32; Luk_6:35; Luk_7:42; Luk_10:27; Luk_11:42; Luk_11:43; Luk_16:13; Luk_20:46; Joh_5:42; Joh_8:42; Joh_11:3; Joh_13:34; Joh_13:35; Joh_14:15; Joh_14:21; Joh_14:23; Joh_14:24; Joh_14:31; Joh_15:9; Joh_15:10; Joh_15:12; Joh_15:13; Joh_15:17; Joh_15:19; Joh_17:26; Joh_21:15; Joh_21:16; Joh_21:17; Rom_5:5; Rom_5:8; Rom_8:28; Rom_8:35; Rom_8:39; Rom_12:9; Rom_12:10; Rom_13:8; Rom_13:9; Rom_13:10; Rom_14:15; Rom_15:30; 1Co_2:9; 1Co_4:21; 1Co_8:1; 1Co_13:1; 1Co_13:2; 1Co_13:3; 1Co_13:4; 1Co_13:8; 1Co_13:13; 1Co_14:1; 1Co_16:14; 1Co_16:22; 1Co_16:24; 2Co_2:4; 2Co_2:8; 2Co_5:14; 2Co_6:6; 2Co_8:7; 2Co_8:8; 2Co_8:24; 2Co_11:11; 2Co_12:15; 2Co_13:11; 2Co_13:14; Gal_5:6; Gal_5:13; Gal_5:14; Gal_5:22; Eph_1:4; Eph_1:15; Eph_2:4; Eph_3:17; Eph_3:19; Eph_4:2; Eph_4:15; Eph_4:16; Eph_5:2; Eph_5:25; Eph_5:28; Eph_5:33; Eph_6:23; Eph_6:24; Php_1:9; Php_1:16; Php_2:1; Php_2:2; Col_1:4; Col_1:8; Col_2:2; Col_3:14; Col_3:19; 1Th_1:3; 1Th_3:6; 1Th_3:12; 1Th_4:9; 1Th_5:8; 1Th_5:13; 2Th_1:3; 2Th_2:10; 2Th_3:5; 1Ti_1:5; 1Ti_1:14; 1Ti_2:15; 1Ti_3:3; 1Ti_4:12; 1Ti_6:10; 1Ti_6:11; 2Ti_1:7; 2Ti_1:13; 2Ti_2:22; 2Ti_3:10; Tit_2:2; Tit_2:4; Tit_3:4; Tit_3:15; Phm_1:5; Phm_1:7; Phm_1:9; Heb_6:10; Heb_10:24; Heb_13:1; Heb_13:5; Jas_1:12; Jas_2:5; Jas_2:8; 1Pe_1:8; 1Pe_1:22; 1Pe_2:17; 1Pe_3:10; 1Pe_4:8; 1Pe_5:14; 2Pe_1:7; 1Jn_2:5; 1Jn_2:15; 1Jn_3:1; 1Jn_3:10; 1Jn_3:11; 1Jn_3:14; 1Jn_3:16; 1Jn_3:17; 1Jn_3:18; 1Jn_3:23; 1Jn_4:7; 1Jn_4:8; 1Jn_4:9; 1Jn_4:10; 1Jn_4:11; 1Jn_4:12; 1Jn_4:16; 1Jn_4:17; 1Jn_4:18; 1Jn_4:19; 1Jn_4:20; 1Jn_4:21; 1Jn_5:2; 1Jn_5:3; 2Jn_1:1; 2Jn_1:3; 2Jn_1:5; 2Jn_1:6; 3Jn_1:1; 3Jn_1:6; Jud_1:2; Jud_1:12; Jud_1:21; Rev_2:4; Rev_2:19; Rev_3:19; Rev_12:11;

Think about it,  choose wisely, act differently.  Do it now!


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